There’s no easy answer to dealing with the loss of a loved one during the holidays….let alone the rest of the year. I’ve been dealing with the loneliness that comes with having recently lost my Mom, Step Dad, and Dad. Seeing people enjoying the holidays with their parents makes me yearn for mine even more than I already do on a daily basis. It’s easy to hide away from everyone and everything. I’ve certainly wanted to just disappear for a while and go live in the mountains surrounded by the beauty of nature to soothe my aching soul. I obviously can’t just disappear, where would you get your health news from if I did that? 🙂 What works for me might not work for you but I wanted to share:
FIVE WAYS TO COPE
DURING THE HOLIDAYS
1. Let Music Guide Your Soul
Listen to their favorite songs, create a playlist, and remember them through the power of music. I like to have a mixture of songs that make me feel many different emotions: sadness, happiness, inspiration, peacefulness, etc. It’s important to have a variety of songs that you listen to in order to prevent yourself from getting into a rut. This is a time to mourn, to remember, to live, and to give some sort of peace to yourself and your loved one(s). Cry it out, remember the good times, and get inspiration to create a better future for yourself. That is the way they would have wanted it for you. Find me on Spotify (spotify:user:chergetinhere ) and check out some of my sweet playlists I’ve created to get me through these tough times!
2. Do Something in Their Honor
Plant some flowers, cook their favorite meal, take a drive on a sunny day with the windows down (if you live somewhere warm!), or something else that you know they would do if they were still here. In example, my Mom and Step Dad were HUGE animal lovers so I like to do something to help animals when I am missing them. I actually took their dogs when they passed away and they are now my fur babies. I usually will take them on an extra long walk or do something special for them. My husband’s Mom passed away too soon as well. When he is missing her we’ll cook pasta (she was an amazing Italian cook!) or we’ll head on over to IHOP (she loved pancakes!) and indulge in some sweet food. There are many ways you can do something in their honor. Get creative and enjoy it as much as you can! If you’d like, donate to the Midwest Lab Rescue. My Mom used to volunteer there and they do amazing work! Click Here to Donate
3. Don’t Go Through This Alone
Join a support group, let your friends know you need some support, and/or seek professional help. I recently saw a news report of a modern day loss support group called “The Dinner Party”. It’s where people who are in the same situation as you get together over dinner to connect, share stories, and support each other. They currently have locations in: Los Angeles, San Francisco, NYC, and Washington, DC. They’re working on getting more locations so stay tuned! Click Here for The Dinner Party’s Website I have my first dinner at the end of this month and am looking forward to it. It’s a no pressure sort of way to meet up in a more personal, warm setting. I’ll let you know how it goes! Sometimes the help of a support group and friends are not enough. You may be down a deeper hole than they can help you get out of. Seeking the help of a professional may help get you out into the light again. They are trained to deal with many situations and have dedicated their lives to helping others. Don’t wait, seek help today for a brighter future…in whatever way you can!
4. Remember to Take Care of Yourself
This is something that tends to go first when we’re in a tough place in our life but we have to remember to care for ourselves during this trying time. Eat well, even if you can’t find the energy to cook for yourself. Order something from your favorite place to eat, get some pre-made meals from the grocery store, or enlist the help of a friend if you’re feeling really down. Just don’t forget to eat! Exercise releases endorphins that make us feel good and can help our minds mentally sort out our thoughts. It’s a time to yourself where you don’t have to talk to anyone and can just zone out and sweat it out. Just don’t forget about yourself!
5. Put More Love Out Into The Universe
The Beatles said it best, “All you need is love.” What better way to receive love than to give it? It not only puts positivity out into the universe but it can also help take your mind off of things for a while. So help a friend, adopt a pet (if you are able and ready!), feed the homeless, volunteer, and/or do something kind for a stranger. Whatever you do, keep on loving and that love will come back to you when you need it the most.
It’s never easy dealing with the loss of a loved one and the holiday season can be an even more tough time. Remember the good times, try to follow the five ways to cope, and never give up. If you are thinking about hurting yourself, please call the 24-Hour National Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-8255. You’ll get through this. I’m here for you. You’re never alone.
As always, Health Freak, RN is here for you. If you need someone to lean on during this time please email me at HealthFreakRN@gmail.com
You are loved, you are wanted, and you are still here on this beautiful, green Earth. Make it the best that you can while you are here.
UNTIL NEXT TIME,
STAY HEALTHY MY FREAKS!
YOUR MIND AND BODY WILL
THANK YOU FOR IT